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Guest Book Review
Category: Success and Personal Development
Dale Carnegie's How
to Win Friends and Influence People
By Jim Oneil
No man is an island, goes the hackneyed expression whose
thought-provoking magic has been corrupted in countless social gathering speeches. Though a
cliché, this saying has not been refuted all through the years. How about the monks and fakirs
out there? Well, they are not alone. They find their friends in nature, in things where they
unite their selves with. That may be a brain-racking statement, but that's the simplest
explanation their complex mind can bring.
All people in the whole wide world even the geeks and
nerds will not deny the universal need for friends and companions. How to have long-lasting and
true friends is quite a daunting and life-long task, especially during this time when most
people even philosophers will admit that the need for friends is necessary to have influential
powers. This is quite a selfish motive to make friends with. However, one famous person
considered to be a social philosopher had understood very well the meaning of having friends and
the worth of being able to influence people in the capitalistic-consuming world. For this and
for the wealth he had acquired, this philosopher made his name immortal and indelible in many
books and to people who were influenced by his wisdom.
Dale Carnegie, the man I'm referring, left something
which can be of great help to all of us. His insights were packed in CDs or DVDs with the title
How to Win Friends and Influence People. If you are wondering if this audio book is very
effective, you ought to know how Napoleon Hill was influenced by his insightful ideas and was
led to write his own book entitled Think and Grow Rich.
The audio runs for 7 hours and is narrated by Andrew
Macmillian. Due to its length, this article cannot cover everything the audio offers. To give
you a good idea about what it contains, it contains ways to make people like you, ways to win
people to your way of thinking and ways to change people without arousing resentment plus many
more insights. Carnegie wanted to emphasize leadership skills, which is 85% necessary in driving
any person towards success. For this, he offered 9 principles of becoming a good leader. If you
want to be a good leader, you ought to follow along.
The first principle urges listeners to give praise or
appreciation that are not meant to flatter or deceive people. Honesty is a crucial policy when
commenting people for their accomplishments and positive attributes.
The second principle goes to say that correcting people
can be done indirectly. Avoiding to see flushed faces, Carnegie explained that correcting
mistakes cannot be harmful to any ego.
The third principle reminds listeners to look at the mud
stuck to their faces first before washing the dirt at the faces of other people. This whole
thing is not just to avoid ego inflation or deflation, but to make constructive criticisms work
at the best advantage of all people involved.
The fourth principle brings to mind of listeners the
need for thoughtfulness in giving orders. Of course, no one wants a bossy superior, but
everybody knows his own duties. Hence, giving orders must be done in a way that the boss will
ask questions as an indirect and constructive manner of giving orders.
The fifth principle says to allow other people to save
face. Self-esteem is self-worth, and the big loss of all loses is the loss of high
self-esteem.
The sixth is a boosting of self-esteem principle which
can be done by giving attention to every improvement, even those that are slight. This way,
people realize that they are on the right track and will likely do more.
The seventh principle commands listeners to give other
people fine reputations to live up to. Everyone is given expectations by the influential people
in their lives and set expectations for others as well. The thing is to let people expect for
things that can make them distinct and true to what they are.
The eighth principle reminds the need for encouragement
which is the best tool in bringing the best in people and the need for giving impression that
mistakes can be easy to correct.
At the ninth principle, the audio book reminds good
leader wannabes to make people happy at what they suggest to them.
All these principles as well as the other ways for
making friends and influencing people can be done in subtle ways. At the end, listeners are
compelled to anchor on the most powerful tool that they have- the mind- which is the seat of
understanding anything including human relations and their benefits to one's self and to
others.
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